Clearing the PastPosted: January 12, 2014 Filed under: Energy Medicine DNA | Tags: AA, angry, anxiety, beliefs, Big Book, blame, Candess, Candess Campbell, Candess M. Campbell, clearing, compassion, create, creating, damage, demands, depression, desires, dislike, empower, expectation, fear, feelings, frightened, gentle, Harry Potter, Indifference, inventory, JK Rowling, journal, life, Manifest, manifesting, neglect, Order of Phoenix, pain, past, past becomes your future, perfect, PhD, Phoenix, power, present, responsibility, Rowling, self-centered, selfish, successful, victim, wounds Leave a comment
“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix
Much of what I have taught over the years has been about manifesting and creating the life you want. In order to do this, often you have to bring the past into present time to heal. What I mean by this is that when you focus on the past and live in the past, your life is controlled by what you felt and thought in the past. What happens is you continue to feel those feelings in the present. Living in the past leaves no room for what you are experiencing in the present. Living in the past, having your thoughts and feelings consumed by the past, can also control your future. Your past becomes your future.
Living in the past can create depression.
Living in the future can create anxiety.
When I talk about healing the past, what I hear most is “how do I do that?” Well, there are many modalities for healing the past. One that I teach is to become aware of the memories and the wounds. Feel them and change your beliefs around them. Your feelings are a result of your beliefs. Often your beliefs flitter so quickly in your mind, you have difficulty noticing them, grabbing them and examining them.
The ones you can identify is where to start. In your journal, write out a list of people and situations where you have been hurt or angry. Allow yourself to feel your feelings as you remember. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself.
Look at where you may have contributed to the situation. Take inventory of your own actions. You can use the successful process from the Big Book of AA. When taking inventory, write out where you were selfish, self-centered, frightened, or to blame.
Now, you may not have had any responsibility in the situation, especially if you were a child. In that case, look at what was going on in the other person’s life at the time.
People do the best they can at the time. Sometimes their best is destructive and hurtful to others, but it still is the best they can do with the awareness, teachings and the consciousness they have at the time. Are there some things you would like to do that you don’t do? Are there things you do that you wish you didn’t? Have you behaved in the past in ways you would not behave today because you know better? No one is perfect.
Anger is a secondary emotion that covers up pain or fear.
You may have had desires, demands or expectations of someone. Then you find they didn’t either give you what you wanted or they behaved in ways that hurt you.
If this is so and is in the past, in order to heal yourself and move on, you can forgive them. If it is a present situation, then you can make choices on how you choose to handle the situation. If choose to continue to stay in a destructive situation, it is your choice. The responsibility then becomes yours. You cannot blame the other person when you choose to stay. What happens when you blame someone else is, they then have the power to change the situation and you become a victim. When you take responsibility for your choices, you remain empowered and in control of your life.
If you still have a lot of pain or anger about the situation, write out what happened to you. You can write it over and over until the “sting” or “charge” is gone. You may want to read it over and over to a safe, loved one until it is no longer controlling you. You can forgive and move on. This does not mean you agree with what happened, it just means it no longer controls you.
Only you have the ability to clear your past and live fully in present time, thus giving you the power to create the life you want to live.
Clearing frees you to live in present time.
Valentine’s Day and Quantum Physics!Posted: February 10, 2014 | Author: Candess M. Campbell, PhD | Filed under: Energy Medicine DNA | Tags: belief, Candess, Candess Campbell, comment, detach, expectation, grateful, Greg Kuhn, holiday, How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs, Kuhn, love, loved, metaphysicians, metaphysics, perception, Physics, Quantum, quantum physics, revolution, science, Valentine, Valentines Day, Why Quantum Physicists Don’t Fail | 2 Comments
“What we often fail to realize is that the quantum field responds to what we are, not necessarily what we want.”
― Greg Kuhn, How Quantum Physicists Build New Beliefs
You might wonder what Quantum Physics has to do with Valentine’s Day, but as I learn more about Quantum Physics, I understand science is proving what many of us metaphysicians have been teaching for a long time.
As Greg Kuhn explains in his book Why Quantum Physicists Don’t Fail, “The science of the second scientific revolution shows us that the outside world is created by one’s inside world, not the other way around.” What this means is what you experience, what you see or how you see things, comes from your inner world, your perception. Nothing you see is real, or right, or wrong for that matter. What you believe, what you understand, what you experience is based on your collective inner experience. As a therapist I have been working with clients for close to 20 years teaching this concept.
So, how does this relate to Valentine’s Day? The expectation around this holiday is enormous and because, whether you want to admit it or not, the gift you receive or give is directly related to how much you love or are loved. Whether you are contemplating what you want to give your loved one, or responding to what you receive; your perception is all that matters.
Have you ever bought a gift for someone and they misunderstood either the meaning of the gift or how important it was to you when you chose it? Have you ever had someone either give you an insignificant or wrong gift? Did anyone ever cancel a Valentine’s date with you at the last minute due to a crisis? What did you make it mean?
What is important is not the gift itself, but the meaning you give to it.
So, this Valentine’s Day, I’d like to invite you to do something different. Whatever happens or doesn’t happen; whatever you are given or not given; whatever you give or don’t give; let it be perfect. Detach from any self-talk and just be with the experience. Or if you prefer, be grateful for whatever happens, even if previously you would have been angry, disappointed or hurt. Just be grateful for any experience.
Practicing this will definitely shift your mood during this holiday and truly shift your whole life experience for the better. It takes practice, but please receive this as my Valentine’s gift to you!
Share your experiences with us in the comment section.