Passionate Loving Relationship Opportunity

January 14, 2014

 “Happiness [is] Only Real When Shared”           

                                  ― Jon KrakauerInto the Wild

Are you a couple that would like to increase the success of your relationship?

With my word for the year being Relationships, it is apropos for me to share this incredible program by my friend and colleague, Valerie Lipstein.

Having counseled couples for many years, I see this is exactly what I was looking for to support my clients.

You will intuitively know if this is right for you!

The statistics on first marriages ending in the US is very telling…..50% end in divorce. Yet it’s worse for second and third marriages (67% and 72% respectively!)

It’s obvious that people are challenged in relationships and often feel alone and unsupported (This applies to those who are unmarried as well).

What about the other 50% of the couples who stay in first time marriages? Some people who stay in unhappy, unfulfilling relationships do it for the children or for security or a number of others reasons.

Valerie Lipstein, the CEO of Inspired Living Now, a coaching and consulting business is committed to supporting couples thrive personally and professionally.

She knows firsthand how horrible this feels and how it impacts everything in your life when your relationship is rocky. She and her husband of 33 years have experienced difficult times and almost “gave up” until they made a commitment to live and love courageously.

They have created the Courageous Loving Program to support couples and incorporates what they did in their own marriage and many other practical strategies with proven results. Valerie’s husband, Michael, is a psychotherapist specializing in working with couples. Their approach combines proven methods from counseling and coaching modalities.

Check it out and let me know what you think!

https://ue145.infusionsoft.com/go/COUPLES/Candess


Manifesting and Resistance

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C. 

Soon after I chose my word for 2014 – Relationships – came the resistance. I am beginning to think that resistance may be the shadow side to most of what I want to manifest.

When I teach manifesting, I have my students or clients think about and write down specifically what they want to manifest. As soon as they do this, I encourage them to then write down all the thoughts of why they can’t have this. Now, this may appear counter-productive, but the reality is, these thoughts are going to either surface consciously or subconsciously and it is better to challenge them outright.

So I’ll use my word – relationships. I have made a decision to focus on relationships this year. The thoughts that surface are these:

  1. I’ll have to slow down and make time for other people.
  2. I will get hurt.
  3. People will want more of me than I can give.
  4. I’ll have to be present to everyone who comes into my life and I’ll get exhausted.

Now, that I have identified the immediate concerns I have, I can challenge them.

  1. I’ll have to slow down and make time for other people.  – In this case, yes, I will do this. I have wanted to do this for a while and I can schedule my life with more play and less work and if I don’t resist this (stress and exhaustion) then I will really enjoy playing and being more present to friends and family.
  2. I will get hurt. – Just because I am spending more time in my relationships and possibly allowing an intimate relationship, I don’t have to get hurt. I can move slowly, set necessary boundaries until I am confident and feel safe. I have a lot of skills and can use them in relationship. (You will notice that my resistance here appears to come from a need to feel safe.)
  3. People will want more of me than I can give. – In this situation, the fear is not related to my friends and family, but more to other people. It will be necessary for me to be discerning of where I put my time and energy. It is not like a dam breaking. I can spend time with my friends and family without opening the floodgates to everyone. (overwhelm)
  4. I will have to be present to everyone who comes into my life and I will become exhausted. – In this case, becoming present is actually a way of being less exhausted. There will be people around me that I don’t have to be continually present with. I can be present with myself and focus my attention where I would like. I am in control. (exhaustion)

I hope this example demonstrates the fears that come right behind your decision to manifest.  Now, you can be conscious of the fears and challenge them. The theme of this 30-day blog, is not just relationship to others, but relationship to yourself. You are in control of your life, your choices and your future!